You know things aren’t going so well, but the question becomes “Is it bad enough?”. Is it bad enough to warrant some outside help, some marriage counselling? How do you know if counselling will help and could it just fix itself with some time? Is my marriage just too far gone, too much resentment and not worth saving?
All of these are valid questions, so I’ve compiled a list of important signals that indicate your relationship is needing some redirection – and I can assure you, I’m very experienced at offering some helpful guidance to get you back on the path you want for yourself and your partnership.
If you and your partner don’t actively choose to spend time together, if you would rather go to the gym or do any activity alone rather than with your partner or if you would rather be around your friends or family, it’s time to look at what has happened for you to disconnect, and understand that you can work through this situation with help. Let’s have a discussion about how to navigate a different relationship whereby you both can reconnect again.
Losing intimacy is not uncommon in a relationship, but it can be critical for a relationship’s demise. Being ‘just friends’ with your husband or wife is not what marriage is all about – There are many areas in the pie of a relationship that inhibit intimacy and sex. Counselling goes through all these Inhibitors and looks for ways to focus on enhancing and restoring what has been lost.
This is a very common issue. When little niggles occur between a couple and they are not resolved, people have a tendency to implode and do what is called, “collect stamps of resentment” and then they stop being nice to each other. They then implode until they explode, become defiant, or feel anxious. Let me teach you how to resolve conflict and communicate differently, so that you can change the dynamic of the relationship, where both of you can feel heard and happy.
Power struggles do happen in relationships. Instead of viewing each other as equals, the dynamic is like a parent/child relationship. It can become serious when it is seen as coercive control. This happens when one partner male or female controls their partner who is more self sacrificing. If you relate to this, either way is not O.K. Let me help change this dynamic so that both parties understand that the best relationships occur when you both, listen and acknowledge each other’s grievances, look for objective options and be able to have a frank and transparent conversation together.
It’s not uncommon to find other people attractive when you are married. It’s a problem when you see your partner actively respond or flirt with this person. However when you can communicate your fears and insecurities in an effective way, this can resolve these issues. On the other hand, it may be time to understand your own insecurities and deal with them. Either way, you will benefit by learning to communicate differently or deal with your own issues.
If you are experiencing marriage problems, the best chance you can give your marriage’s survival is to seek some help with an experienced therapist. It can make the world of difference. Let me help you navigate these complicated issues with warmth, understanding and practical advice.
